Dating Advice for a Man

Signing up for an online dating site is only the first step in finding a compatible mate. If you expect to meet anyone in real life, you have to learn the art of the email. A long winded email won’t be read, and an email full of irrelevant or offensive material won’t get a response. If you are thinking of writing a message to someone hoping for a response, here are a few tips that will help you come up with a great initial message.

Personalise It

If they’ve shared their name in their profile, be sure to use it in your opening. Avoid using generic terms like ‘hey’, these will get overlooked. Also be sure you have read through their profile so you can express interest in some of the things they have listed as interests.

100 Word Rule

You may want to share a lot of information right from the start, but very long messages will likely not be read. Try to keep your initial contact to 100 words. This gives you enough to introduce yourself, offer a little background, and request a return message.

Know When To Ask Questions

The last few sentences of the email should have some questions. You don’t want to bombard them though. Ask open ended questions, and keep the topics neutral. Questions about favorite hobbies, travel spots, and sports are always a good way to go.

Don’t Ask For Photos

It’s natural to want to see more photos of someone you are interested in. However, asking for more photos, especially explicit photos, is never a good idea in the first contact. Leave this for later, and don’t attach any explicit photos of yourself.

When you come across a dating profile that catches your eye, there are several questions you want to ask yourself before you make contact. Once you feel confident, you will want to ask questions of the profile owner as well.

Questions To Ask Yourself

Before you decide to contact a profile owner, you want to look for several things on their profile. There is no point in sending a message to someone whom you find attractive but have nothing else in common. You can avoid this by asking yourself if you could talk to this person if you were blindfolded. Do you share any interests? Are they looking for the same thing in a relationship as you are? Are they even open to getting messages from you? Many people will list very strict guidelines in their profile for the types of people they want to talk to. If this is the case and you don’t fit them, you probably won’t get a response back anyhow.

Questions To Ask Them

First and foremost, you want to find out if they are even looking for the same thing as you are. If you are looking for a serious relationship but they only want casual encounters or swinging, you are going to end up being disappointed in the end. While it’s not a good idea to discuss religion early on, if you are religious and it’s important to you, find out what their views are. Asking other things like if they have kids, what their career ambitions are, and whether they drink or smoke are other things that are going to be important for some people. Basically, you want to come up with your list of ‘dealbreakers’ and make sure they don’t have any of them. This will save a lot of wasted time later.

Standing out is important when you’re among the dating world. The trick though is standing out in a positive way. Being known as obnoxious is not a good way to meet people. There are ways to make you stand out from other men in a positive manner.

Master The Art Of The Compliment

Telling a woman she is beautiful is always going to get a good reaction. However, doting over her after you’ve paid the compliment will not get you the kind of attention you want. The best way to get a woman’s attention? Walk up and give her an appropriate compliment, then walk away. This puts the ball in her court, and forces her to think about you and the interaction. When you do this the other men in the room won’t hold a candle to you.

Dress To Impress

If you are trying to get noticed but show up at an event wearing dirty jeans, you aren’t going to get the kind of attention you want. If you want to be noticed in a positive manner, dress in a way that will impress. You don’t need to wear a thousand dollar suit, but your clothing should be neat, pressed, clean, and sharp.

Learn To Listen

Keep your bragging rights at home. If you want to stand out, allow the women to talk and take lead of the conversation. Of course, you need to interject, and will need to share a little about yourself as well. However, allowing the woman to take the reigns of the conversation will show her that you aren’t afraid of a woman in control, and will make you stand out even in a crowd of other men.